As an iconic martial art artist and famous actor, Bruce Lee also had inspiring views on life. Listed below are my favorite teachings from the awesome fighter.
1. What is your thought life now?
This is a fundamental element that typically affects our behavior and reason. What do your thoughts reflect about your personality and your interactions in society? And do they really match your goals in life and ego? You may be subconsciously unaware of how your thought life influences your life. This article therefore serves as a useful reminder on the value and importance of having a positive thought life.
2. Simplicity is king
In your quest to enhance your qualify of life you may be tempted to have more. The problem however, is that you may neither have the energy nor time to add more stuff or accomplish more, as clutter often creates more anxiety and stress in your life. You should eliminate clutter and negative thoughts to have more energy for more important tasks that add value to your life. When you get rid of clutter, your inner self is nourished and you become happier.
3. Study yourself in your interactions with others
Studying your interactions with others in your ‘alone time’ can provide great insight on where you need to improve. Although this process of self awareness may likely produce self doubting thoughts, it can go a long way in enhancing your self-esteem. How well you interact with others in society can teach you amazing things about yourself.
4. Avoid perfectionism
Your ego always enjoys any available opportunity to divide and conquer. What does this really mean? Well, do you always have the feeling or need to be better than others, or prettier, or clever? You should keep in mind that emotions and thoughts are usually overwhelming but they should never dictate how you live your life as they are ever changing. You therefore have the power not to take your emotions too seriously or disregard them altogether when your ego rears its ugly head.
5. Never seek the validation of others
You feel that you need more to satisfy your ego. A simple way of demonstrating this is by constantly seeking validation from others. The validation is shortly lived and soon you want more. Do you feel not pretty or successful enough? Do you always enjoy the ‘comfort’ validation offers? The problem with this habit is that it affects your thought life and you will often find yourself in an emotional roller coaster. A good way to get rid of this habit is to set personal expectations and appreciate your achievements more often. Life is too short to get stuck in the rut of seeking validation. After all, nobody else knows the power in you and your abilities. Inner validation not only nourishes your mental health but enhances your confidence as well.
You agree with me that most of us just wish we were more confident in various circumstances.
But why is it so hard?
Your friend may say for instance, ‘’Hey, be confident, pal!’’. Nonetheless, this statement may not be helpful to someone with low-self esteem. In this post, you will learn invaluable tips on how to become more confident and assertive in life.
1. Action vs. thinking too much
A simple way to build self-esteem is to act rather than spending too much time thinking. Work on a project to its completion. Lazing on the couch and thinking instead of acting is likely to demoralize you and make you feel worse. Here are simple ways to help you take action more often.
- Live in the present. Just appreciate the joy of living in the moment and do what is required of you instead of wasting your valuable time over thinking. This tip is effective because it creates a state whereby you feel less emotional resistance as you work. Additionally, if offers a focused and relaxed atmosphere to complete your tasks. A simple way to ensure you live in the present for improved focus in your tasks is by breathing in and out regularly.
- Take it easy. Nobody gets out alive my friend. A common thing that instils in you the fear to act is that you always have to do something with seriousness. This can make a project appear too scary or difficult. You need to relax and acknowledge that problems are just real in your mind. With a relaxed mind, your endeavours will become easier and lighter.
2. Identify your fear and face it head on
- Find more experiences. Seek out more experiences that offer an opportunity to face your fear. A simple way to achieve this is by being curious. In essence, fear encloses your boundaries in life and acts as a barrier. It is therefore important to break these barriers more often.
- Acknowledge that fear stems from wrongful interpretation. By misjudging circumstances or silly miscommunication, our subconscious automatically interprets these negative messages. As we all know, our subconscious memory affects our behaviour. As mentioned earlier on, you should not take things too seriously since thoughts are ever changing.
Researching or educating yourself is important. For instance, you can rehearse your speech before an event. With effective research and breathing skills, you will become more present and calm. So prior preparation in anything you do will improve your confidence. However, you should not get stuck in this phase as it may hamper your ability to take action.
4. We all fail, move on!
Failure is part of life. The world will not end because you failed. Failure is something useful for personal development and improved self confidence. Here are reasons why failure is an important phase in life:
- Makes you stronger. Failure builds character and you learn that it is part of life. In a way, you become desensitized to it. You are now able to handle circumstances with confidence because even if you failed, at least you were brave enough to take a chance.
- Succeeding becomes easier. Each failure increases your chance to succeed because you learn from mistakes each time.