3 Reasons You Are Always Unhappy


Life situations undoubtedly have the power to make life not worthy living. However, most of the times, unhappiness is a result of our own habits and thought life. This article will discuss 3 common destructive habits that create anxiety and happiness in your life.

1. Paying too much attention on perfection

Do you always have to strive for perfection in your endeavors?

Is it necessary for you to live in a certain way to conform to society expectations?

Then you are not realistic and happiness will escape your grasp. Unrealistic expectations are bound to cause unnecessary anxiety and you may feel discouraged yet possibly you had achieved good results. You may continue incessantly on this trend when you always feel discouraged when something is not near perfect.

How do you rise above this habit?
Well, there are a few things you can do to battle this habit and enjoy peace of mind:
Set deadlines. It is important to have a deadline when you start a project. Maybe you are working on a novel or eBook and your effort to complete the project stagnate because you always want perfection. A deadline will help you avoid the urge to polish every little detail.
Good is enough. Striving for personal perfection always ends up in missed deadlines. Good is always enough because it doesn’t give you room to laze around. Simply accept that good is enough and you will finish your projects timely.

2.  Listening to negative people

We co-exist with each other in society for social and economic growth. What you watch, read and who you hang out with has a lasting effect on your thought life and general attitude on life. In fact, this is the reason most people today find it extremely hard to stay happy with all the negative voices belittling their progress.

How do you rise above this habit?
Spend more time with positive people and you will notice remarkable transformation in your life. Read more inspiring books and watch meaningful TV shows for better personal growth geared towards happiness and peace of mind. A good place to start is by reading a personal development blog or listening to a positive audio book as you enjoy a cup of coffee in the morning instead of spending too much time on social media.

3. Focusing on past events too much.
Do you spend a considerable amount of time reliving past conflicts and bad relationships? Focusing too much on past events and how things went wrong at the workplace or in your love relationship is not helpful. On the other hand, living in the future hinders your ability to enjoy what is happening now – the present.

How do you rise above this habit?
Although it is close to impossible not to ponder on what the future holds as well on past events, it is far beneficial to accept that you have no power over the past. Dwelling on things that happened is never a solution. You should always avoid getting stuck in past or future events too much.  As a suggestion, you can practice breathing techniques to help you enjoy all the things that align you to the present.

5 Awesome Teachings about Life by Bruce Lee


As an iconic martial art artist and famous actor, Bruce Lee also had inspiring views on life. Listed below are my favorite teachings from the awesome fighter.

1. What is your thought life now?

This is a fundamental element that typically affects our behavior and reason. What do your thoughts reflect about your personality and your interactions in society? And do they really match your goals in life and ego? You may be subconsciously unaware of how your thought life influences your life. This article therefore serves as a useful reminder on the value and importance of having a positive thought life.

2.  Simplicity is king

In your quest to enhance your qualify of life you may be tempted to have more. The problem however, is that you may neither have the energy nor time to add more stuff or accomplish more, as clutter often creates more anxiety and stress in your life. You should eliminate clutter and negative thoughts to have more energy for more important tasks that add value to your life. When you get rid of clutter, your inner self is nourished and you become happier.

3. Study yourself in your interactions with others

Studying your interactions with others in your ‘alone time’ can provide great insight on where you need to improve. Although this process of self awareness may likely produce self doubting thoughts, it can go a long way in enhancing your self-esteem. How well you interact with others in society can teach you amazing things about yourself.

4.  Avoid perfectionism

Your ego always enjoys any available opportunity to divide and conquer. What does this really mean? Well, do you always have the feeling or need to be better than others, or prettier, or clever? You should keep in mind that emotions and thoughts are usually overwhelming but they should never dictate how you live your life as they are ever changing. You therefore have the power not to take your emotions too seriously or disregard them altogether when your ego rears its ugly head.

5. Never seek the validation of others

You feel that you need more to satisfy your ego. A simple way of demonstrating this is by constantly seeking validation from others. The validation is shortly lived and soon you want more. Do you feel not pretty or successful enough? Do you always enjoy the ‘comfort’ validation offers? The problem with this habit is that it affects your thought life and you will often find yourself in an emotional roller coaster. A good way to get rid of this habit is to set personal expectations and appreciate your achievements more often. Life is too short to get stuck in the rut of seeking validation. After all, nobody else knows the power in you and your abilities. Inner validation not only nourishes your mental health but enhances your confidence as well.

4 Surefire Tips on How To Improve Your Self-Esteem


You agree with me that most of us just wish we were more confident in various circumstances.

But why is it so hard?

Your friend may say for instance, ‘’Hey, be confident, pal!’’. Nonetheless, this statement may not be helpful to someone with low-self esteem. In this post, you will learn invaluable tips on how to become more confident and assertive in life.

1. Action vs. thinking too much

A simple way to build self-esteem is to act rather than spending too much time thinking. Work on a project to its completion. Lazing on the couch and thinking instead of acting is likely to demoralize you and make you feel worse. Here are simple ways to help you take action more often.

  • Live in the present. Just appreciate the joy of living in the moment and do what is required of you instead of wasting your valuable time over thinking. This tip is effective because it creates a state whereby you feel less emotional resistance as you work. Additionally, if offers a focused and relaxed atmosphere to complete your tasks. A simple way to ensure you live in the present for improved focus in your tasks is by breathing in and out regularly.
  • Take it easy. Nobody gets out alive my friend. A common thing that instils in you the fear to act is that you always have to do something with seriousness. This can make a project appear too scary or difficult. You need to relax and acknowledge that problems are just real in your mind. With a relaxed mind, your endeavours will become easier and lighter.

2. Identify your fear and face it head on

  • Find more experiences. Seek out more experiences that offer an opportunity to face your fear. A simple way to achieve this is by being curious. In essence, fear encloses your boundaries in life and acts as a barrier. It is therefore important to break these barriers more often.
  • Acknowledge that fear stems from wrongful interpretation. By misjudging circumstances or silly miscommunication, our subconscious automatically interprets these negative messages. As we all know, our subconscious memory affects our behaviour. As mentioned earlier on, you should not take things too seriously since thoughts are ever changing.

3. Prepare

Researching or educating yourself is important. For instance, you can rehearse your speech before an event. With effective research and breathing skills, you will become more present and calm. So prior preparation in anything you do will improve your confidence. However, you should not get stuck in this phase as it may hamper your ability to take action.

4. We all fail, move on!

Failure is part of life. The world will not end because you failed. Failure is something useful for personal development and improved self confidence. Here are reasons why failure is an important phase in life:

  • Makes you stronger. Failure builds character and you learn that it is part of life. In a way, you become desensitized to it. You are now able to handle circumstances with confidence because even if you failed, at least you were brave enough to take a chance.
  • Succeeding becomes easier. Each failure increases your chance to succeed because you learn from mistakes each time.

5 Steps to Stay Sane and Happy


With the turbulent economy and the ever increasing cost of basic commodities, constant worry has almost become a normalcy in every household. Today it is easier to become cynical, jaded and it is even simpler to entertain negativity. As a result, most people are in a constant pursuit of effective tools that can help them achieve success, fulfillment and happiness. Many folks for instance are actively seeking all different types of avenues geared toward finding optimism in life. On the other hand, skeptics are quick to point out that positive living is merely a passive form of pursing cheerfulness. Most folks however do not recognize that positive living is like looking for a needle in the haystack if you are not committed to make the necessary changes in your life. Without further ado, here are 5 steps to live a happy life today;

1. Never dwell on yesterday

You should utilize past life experiences with wisdom. In other words, instead of spending your precious time thinking what you could have done yesterday, focus on what awaits you tomorrow. Stay sane and avoid feeling depressed on what you did yesterday because there is nothing you can do about it.

2. Focus on now

Make an effort to always anticipate something great waiting to happen in your life. You can reflect on your life joys and have a mental photograph of your strengths. This mental photograph is a powerful tool that can help you stay positive and motivated in any situation regardless of how you feel.

3. Take time to exercise

Exercise is not as challenging as what people make it to be. In fact, there are many exercises you can do at home without having to pay expensive gym membership. Find time to do an activity that uplifts your mood. As they say, exercise has both physical and mental benefits. A short walk in your neighborhood is an amazing way to kick-start your day.

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4. Avoid negative people

You should spend less time and ultimately avoid people who are constantly second-guessing anything positive. Find friends and acquaintances that are positive. When this becomes your way of life, these people will keep your engine running and there will be no room in your mind for negativity whatsoever.

5. Read inspirational materials every day

Reading positive materials is a great way to stay positive and motivated. There are countless inspirational e-books online that offer invaluable tips on how to live a positive life. Ensure you read something positive in the morning and before you retire to bed and you will see a remarkable change in your life.