Social Media or Social Decay?


Social media, a powerful tool that connects friends and takes businesses to new heights is evidently not a passing trend. Social media, Facebook to be precise is without doubt an extension to having a hard on toward the right path (getting laid and other forms of Social evils). Let me explain this concept in layman’s language. Take this scenario for instance; although it often starts sheepishly, it’s not rocket science to figure out where this exchange is going.

Facebook conversation between a girl and a boy. The boy is a stranger or a long lost friend, or vice versa (desperate times)

Boy: ‘’Wow, you are cute… I like’’, kisses.
Girl:  ‘’Awwww, thanx dear.. wink wink’’
Boy:  ‘’ Can you add me as your friend, my friend request thingy has been disabled’’ (classic move)
Girl:  ‘’Yeah right, anyway it won’t hurt, sure you can be my friend.

GAME ON: The lad only has to put in a little effort and score.

Who then do we blame for social media decay?

Simple!

1. Fathers
2. Society

1.Fathers

Are you too busy to spend quality time with your attention-starved daughter? Sadly, fathers who supposedly are the head of the family are live in color battling the many youthful temptations middle crisis brings. To what end? This creates an emotional void in the family and the daughter is the most affected because by default, girls crave attention – the need to feed love and sense of identity..

I can never overemphasize this point.

             A father’s presence will never be substituted by material wealth. Spending time with your children is priceless.

An emotionally starved girl will always live on an emotional roller-coaster, which in turn is projected on her relationships and interactions with others. She will go at great lengths to get the attention she rightly deserves from someone (A father figure) to say the least. This is where social media shows its ugly head, providing a platform where she can constantly seek validation on her beauty from friends, and even strangers, something that still baffles me.

2. Society

Ever watched a TV advert that is not even closely related to the product? Today, most TV ads have picture perfect models and it’s obvious that creating a sexual tone makes the product more appealing. TV programs, on the other hand glorify the thrill of short-live sexual escapades among young adults with an idealistic view of relationships and life in general. Excessive media consumption slowly and steadily corrupts our values, and immorality is an extension of what today is the ‘’in thing’’ – SOCIAL MEDIA. As mentioned earlier on, social media is a fun base for like-minded people who over represent themselves and seek feedback on how great their lives are, and constantly find the need to post ‘’like me pics’’. Are we as a species reached a point where face-to- face interaction is not cherished? Does our obsession with social media affect our personality and outlook on life? Is social media decay the root cause of high divorce cases in society? It’s high time we sober up and find direction in our short-lived life.

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Is Online Dating Social Media Crime?


They say love is complicated – that which every person longs for in our short lived life. Without the feeling of being loved, life would certainly be miserable and meaningless. The internet has changed our attitudes as a society and globalization is gradually shaping our culture, and we often pay more attention to the many benefits of modern technology, and ponder little on the harm it poses. The internet has supposedly improved human interaction as you can instantly chat with a friend in New York from Africa. The perks for growth and communication therefore seem boundless.

Online dating has suddenly been embraced by society as it seems as the best solution to our much needed emotional problems. After all, why should you feel left out and yet you have reliable internet connection? A common notion is that most people never get along simply because they don’t share common interests. However, with online dating, it is easy to ensure you are compatible with someone before you start dating. A perfect way to make a relationship more ‘real’- don’t you think?

online dating

So in online dating, the applicant simply has to jot down his or her dislikes, hair color, height, what genre of movies they love and so forth, and then the system magically shows a detailed list of potential matches.

So, what really are the the perceived benefits of online dating?

It is easy to find your true love because you can learn everything about your potential mate even before you decide to inbox them.
You have endless possibilities if you have internet connection. Your true love may be from China for all you know.
You can know someone at the comfort of your home without actually getting to meet them.

Although these perceived benefits of online dating seem tempting, I personally believe that online dating is only a fad.

Dishonesty of the highest levels

Research shows that at least 1 in 5 people who actively participate in dating sites are in a relationship. With online dating, you just email each other yet you don’t know who is on the other end, their sexual orientation or gender – until you finally meet them. In most cases, disappointment is inevitable. Additionally, most people exaggerate their interests or hobbies to make their lives seem cool and interesting. Online dating sites would be great if people were as interesting as they think they are.

Real men ask women out on dates

Men have become new age wimps with no guts and sense of pride. Since it takes ‘balls’ to ask girls out on dates, men now prefer to hid behind emails and over complement chicks they have never met. On the other hand, chicks in revealing outfits ‘supposedly’ only want friendship and boldly indicate on their profile they are off the market –either engaged or married.

Online dating is not real

Basically a profile is what a person thinks of himself and that is why most folks love online dating. You can easily create multiple personas and become whoever you want. When a ‘cool’ chick says for example ‘’ I am pretty’’, ‘’down-to- earth’’ – my personal favorite, and ‘’outgoing’’. You may say ‘’ she is childish after spending time with her’’. You will not know this until the day you decide to have lunch or coffee, which to your disappointment could be after months of hiding behind shallow emails exchanging countless ‘’LOLs’’ and  ‘’I miss you very much’’. A child will cry when you hide a toy because he is emotionally attached to it. How then is it possible to miss someone you have never met? I personally believe that online dating is a waste of your precious time that you could have otherwise spend meeting new people in your area.

Facebook and Narcissism – Where Do You Fall?


Narcissism can be defined as extreme admiration and love for one self. Facebook users who have plenty of friends, regularly post photos and update their status every hour are downright narcissist. Facebook gives narcissists an ideal platform to get admiration and sense of self-worth through comments, and in turn they become the epitome of attention. Facebook users are grouped into two; the grandiose exhibition type and entitlement/explosiveness type. In the latter (grandiose exhibition type) – the person seeks to become the center of attention. On the other hand, people who exhibit entitlement traits are willing to go to great lengths to seek attention and respect they assume they rightly deserve.

Regular checking your Facebook or Twitter may be a normal routine but now research questions whether people truly find joy in sharing their personal issues with the rest of the world. People in my generation embrace Social technology and use it for narcissism and self-promotion behavior. Constantly networking on Social websites is closely associated with an inflated ego, commonly seen when ‘’attention seekers’’ post lots of pictures at parties with friends to appear cool and fun.

How many times have you checked your Facebook or Twitter account today?

Is Marriage Worth Your Sanity and Happiness?


The divorce rate today is alarming and one contributing factor is the belief that people change when they get married. Simple, they don’t! Marriage is just an institution where you celebrate your deepest love and commitment to your partner in the midst of friends and curious onlookers, with varied opinions on the expected expiry date of your union. I want to share with you a number of reasons why marriage should be the last thing on your mind. Basically, it’s all about having a list of genuine reasons why you should not get married now.

1. The stress is not worth it

How does it feel to have a girlfriend long-term? We all know how stressful dating can be. Now when you decide to get married, you may have to tolerate this stress for the rest of your life. Are you ready to commit your life to depression? That’s absolutely ridiculous, don’t you think?

2. Marriage is expensive

Marriage is very expensive as is divorce. You have to share all expenses with your better half and that means you have to ask for consent before you spend your money. Who wants that? Instead of anticipating a dreadful divorce a few years down the road, why not spend your hard earned cash on a holiday at your favorite destination point. Not only will you have fun but also appreciate the many perks of staying single.

3. You will not amass wealth

Some people end up married for monetary gains. More women today are looking for monetary security. Although there is nothing evil in finding someone who can take care of you, it should never be the basis of gauging your potential mate. Some women often forget the true meaning of love and fail to honor the institution of marriage by marrying for money. You should remember that money is the root cause of all evil. Financial wealth will never substitute love and true companionship. With that said, you should never consider marrying someone because of wealth.

4. Marriage may not guarantee security

Most women have the misconception or idealized fantasy they will have peace of mind and a sense of financial security in marriage, but few actually achieve this. In most cases, this often affects younger women who are in the process of trying to figure out their true self. They may hope and believe that older men will provide security and hence can take care of their every need. This never seems to work and most women end up hurt and resentful. As a woman, you should first get your own sense of security through financial and emotional independence.

Reasons You Should NEVER Think Of Saving Money


Saving money is something new to me. As my friends say, I love to spend and certainly enjoy the good things money can buy, and the idea of thinking how to save money for me is just boring and depressing. Besides that, I cannot stand listening about economic crisis, bank bailouts, saving your last penny and so forth. Money has become the talk of town and people seem not to have anything else to talk about. Thankfully, I always do my best to steer clear from this dreaded topic – saving money. But then again, how does it feel when you do not have extra cash for an emergency? Can you comfortably borrow money from friends and relatives?  If not, then you should read this article several times to fully understand the importance of saving and the joy of having money around when you need it.

1. Avoid petty stress

Saving money each month can help alleviate the stress and anxiety associated to not having money to meet your needs, and any problem faced by those that spend their every penny is completely avoided. You will agree with me that our earning potential decreases as we age hence saving for future luxuries is far important when your physical health clearly dictates employment is now a forgotten term to you. A sizeable saving will allow you to enjoy peace of mind.

2. Boosts your self confidence

Having money around feels great, don’t you think? It acts as a constant reminder that spending is money that you no longer have, and that buying stuff to fill your void is a small step toward a bigger problem. Whether you save for a vacation or new shoes, each time you set some money aside to accomplish your goals is a positive step towards getting it.

3. More income and less dependence on those around you

Having a sizeable saving means you will never nag your family or friends by borrowing money. After all, they also have their share of financial obligations. The point of saving is to encourage independence through personal financial responsibility. The sky should not be your limit when saving money.

4. Invest and earn more

When you decide to save some cash every month and embrace the lifestyle of frugality, an array of choices are available to you. For starters, you can invest in stocks or buy that special gift you have always cherished. As a suggestion, you should do ample research before you invest your hard money in stocks.

Why You Should Nurture a Positive Attitude for Peace of Mind


Life has something new to offer every day and disappointments are inevitable. This may make it difficult to keep a positive attitude. Nevertheless, you should know the power of having a positive outlook on things. And when you learn the benefits of nurturing a positive outlook on life, you will enjoy peace of mind and general well-being. What other benefits can you reap when you keep a positive attitude? Well, let’s discuss the reasons you should keep a positive attitude. When you nurture positive thoughts in your daily endeavors, positive actions automatically become a part of you. As a result, positive manifestation in seen in everything you do. You will become more confident and people will notice that sparkle in your life.

The first step to keep a positive attitude is to give your mind suggestions. To avoid negative thoughts that hold refuge your sanity and happiness, you need to tune your mind by reciting positive suggestions daily. For example, ‘’I know I am broke but I can feel that money is coming my way and I believe I will get it’’.  In other words, life in general and the environment around you is closely and ultimately affected by your thought life. A sure way to avoid negative thoughts is to nurture your thought life by positive suggestions. But fast, it is important to analyze your outlook and beliefs about money, relationships, sex and so forth.

Now after you avoid negative thoughts and identify your beliefs, changing your thought life to a positive one will become easy. Be honest and accept that you always entertain negative thoughts, and demonstrate the willingness to change your thought life for the better. You have the power to change your life when you accept that you need to avoid negative thoughts even when you are faced with a challenge. After all, you need to keep a positive attitude if you want to succeed in life.

Another way to avoid negative thoughts and keep a positive attitude is personal reflection. When you are thinking about success or power, take note of how you respond to a specific situation. Do you always find yourself having a negative outlook because it always seems the easiest way out? After you know how you respond to such situations, simply replace that circumstance with a positive attitude or belief. By nurturing a positive attitude every day, you will feel a sense of satisfaction and completeness in life. Simply avoid negative thoughts and channel your energy to keep a positive attitude and you will have purpose in life.